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Erotic spanking
requires skill and patience. It should be an encounter that will involve open dialogue between spanker and spankee. There
must be erotic communication and sensual feedback over the course of the entire spanking.
POSITIONS
I personally insist on having my spankee stand or lay face-down for EVERY spanking. These
two positions are actually the safest and most comfortable for everyone concerned. Standing allows for instant access to the
spankee's other erotic targets with the spanker's free hand. Laying face-down on the bed is very practical for lengthy spankings
and ensuing diversions. The bottom can be elevated on pillows, if so desired.
HOW
TO BEGIN? (WARM UP)
Warm-up is very important!
When there is no warm-up and just a merciless barrage
of hard swats from the first hit, the results are far from pleasurable. Rather than trying to finish the job in twenty whacks
like some Paul Bunyan-style lumberjack, begin the spanking by not spanking.
Gently stroke that bottom first.
Make
it exciting.
Take your time.
Warm up the bottom by rubbing, squeezing, massaging it either gently or rough.
There
is no hurry.
WHERE TO SPANK? (TARGETS)
The answer seems obvious,
but it's not.
The lower part of the bottom - right above where the thighs and buttocks meet, better known as the sit
or "sweet spot" - is very sensitive and so are the fleshy sides of the cheeks. Make sure to pay extra special attention to
these areas, but don't forget any others! There is nothing wrong with incorporating the inner and outer thighs and the back
of the upper legs in your spanking. Take care to vary the placement of your strokes, and make sure you cover the whole bottom.
IMPORTANT:
Try to keep the location of the next spank as much of a surprise as possible!
BARE
HAND ON BARE BOTTOM (TECHNIQUE)
Technique is very important.
There are ways to intensify any spanking
without applying more force.
Remember: It is the QUANTITY of spanks that does the trick.
A relaxed hand with
fingers closed creates a much more pleasant sensation than keeping the hand stiff and rigid.
By completely relaxing
your wrist (making your hand work like a paddle) you will increase the spanking effect dramatically.
Things will get
even more intense if you spread your fingers! This reduces the air resistance and leads to individual contact between your
fingers and their bottom, (creating an impromptu "cat o'five tails") both widening the area touched and causing a wonderfully
special stinging effect.
Alternating hand and finger techniques will bring about a spanking that will be remembered.
DELIVERING THE SPANKING
What you want to do is start with light spanking until
the cheeks start to "blush."
While three or four spanks in a row on the same area is exciting, many more than that
can prove unpleasant. When too many spanks come at once or too quickly it can be over-stimulating and simply kill the fun.
Next...
WAIT a while. Enjoy the view!
Rub or do something else before the next smack.
Erotic spanking is best accomplished
in brief but progressive sessions. Delivering the spanking in several gradual stages allows the spankee to relax and recuperate
between subsequent sessions. This "intermission" serves as a breather for the submissive and also allows the spanker a chance
to enjoy the warm skin of that enticing bottom or integrate gentle stroking and caressing and "sweet torment" into the spanking
scenario.
I often use these intermissions to deliciously tease and torment my spankee -- who is helpless and at my
mercy -- until they are are squirming and consumed by desire... until "the very fabric of their being convulses with uncontrollable
lust!"
This pause also allows the nerve system to activate again after being slightly numbed from the actual spanking.
As a result, the nerves will receive the next "round" relatively fresh and the impact will be greater.
Gradually increase
the intensity as you go along.
TRICKS OF THE TRADE
Many will
claim that all spankings are best done methodically and rhythmically.
I have found the exact opposite to be true!
The
element of surprise is your secret weapon.
Always vary your intensity! Give that backside a few soft slaps and then
surprise it with some hard stingers. You will love the reaction.
Erotic spankings are best accomplished by bare hands
on bare bottoms.
If used with great care, however, small paddles, the back of hair or bath brushes, wooden spoons,
etc can also be used. Try incorporating a few swats with a wooden brush during an otherwise bare-handed spanking.
Vary
the speed! Going from slow, even strokes to short bursts of rapid-fire and unpredictable strokes can keep things from getting
boring.
ALWAYS keep careful watch on what you are doing and how that bottom changes color.
By spanking only
bare bottoms, you are able to exercise complete control and modify the progress as that bottom blushes and reddens. Your fingers
"color" that bottom like an artist paints a canvas. Imagine those ass cheeks growing hotter and more tender... more pink...more red... so eager for more and yet anxious that there is more. This
technique leaves NO lasting marks of any kind. It is the safest way I know to deliver a spanking because of its gradual and
steadily progressive nature.
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